It was then when I realized I can make more of an impact as a transformation coach than I would as a psychiatrist— So I made up my mind and decided to leave medicine and pursue coaching full time!

Let me tell you a story that may hit home with you.

This may sound weird, but I always looked forward to my school’s report card day, because that's when I got to spend time with my Dad.

But it would be the same conversation every time...

“How many A's did you get this time Kai?” 

I remember when I was in grade school and there weren't ABC grades yet...I'd have to explain to my dad that my E's (exceptional) = A's

Still he would ask every time… “Were you the best in class?” (I usually was)

“Were you at least second?” ...he would ask again.

Then he'd take me to the store and reward me with a video game. This was his way of rewarding me for what he thought was the right standard.

This behavior cemented in me the belief that good grades and academia were paramount, and instantly linked my self-worth to my dad's attention, validation, and approval, which I earned by performing well at school.

I understand where my dad was coming from, as he didn't have the opportunity to go to university… His life was the restaurant 24-7, work, work, work... I don't remember us ever taking a vacation.

So if his son became a well-paid professional like a doctor, this meant a stable, secure, and high status route. In his mind this was not only validation, but vindication.

But at what cost to me?

When I was young, I remember praying for my dad to attend my basketball games, because he disapproved of sports and considered them a waste of time. 

I remember anxiously eyeballing the stands during games, to see if he was there, but all I saw were my teammates' happy parents, high-fiving each other and celebrating every time we’d scored, yelling their kids names… “ GO RICHIE … GO DAVID!!!”

You know what… I didn’t need another video game.

What I needed was my Dad to show up and cheer for me.

A Dad who would approve, validate, encourage, and teach me lessons, skills, and habits to excel in any area that I was passionate about (like basketball!), not just what HE WANTED for me.

Soon it will be almost 3 years since I made the decision to not go back to medicine, even though I graduated medical school.

I remember him being really confused, disappointed, and maybe even a little bit ashamed at first… 

I think now he's at peace with it, and relieved to see that I’m doing well independently, on a path that makes me happy, and still saving lives in many ways!

For a while there I blamed myself for how he felt about my decision, and I carried the weight of that yoke for a long time.

This was very unhealthy, very unproductive, and totally not fair to me. No one asked me to do that… Not even him!

How I turned my life around is a longer story, but here’s what matters… I did it, and if you’re struggling with boundaries, inner child, and confidence issues, YOU can too!

I transformed my life by first discovering, and then applying the secrets to emotional regulation, boundaries, and inner-child healing you’re about to learn in this course.

These tools enabled me to become a trigger-free, emotionally mature, and confident individual, and they will do the same for you, if you give it a chance.

So if you're ready to embark on your own transformative journey, keep reading…